Today, we're excited to bring the third of the four Elements of Desire: License. According to sex and intimacy coach Finn Deerhart, creator of the Elements of Desire: At times, we may move into our heads during sex, away from our bodies. In these moments, in order to continue, we depend on fantasies, outside validation, programmed images of sexiness, objectification, and goal oriented sex. Male sexuality is often reduced and over simplified as a biological imperative to spread seed or to "get off." This explanation does not acknowledge the relational components that are, the foundation, the underlying motivators for sex. The very nature of gay sex is antithetical to the biological model alone, because it is rooted in identity, a social construct. At the same time, as men, we often lack a vocabulary to describe our experiences of ourselves emotionally, sexually, and otherwise. Featuring Calvin Banks, Chris Harder. From the web series: Elements of Desire. Original release date: January 13th, 2020.
This video is a relatable ritual-in-action. The men in this video are representing the feelings and desires of millions of men everywhere who have felt exceptionally touch-deprived and isolated over the course of the past year. This isolation and touch deprivation is nothing new for many men who continue to feel alone in a world where there are so many of us who long for the same thing: touch and connection. This video is capable of conveying several messages, subject to timing of release, and each individual viewer's perception of past, present and future. The video can serve as an archive which documents a moment when we consciously, collectively made the shift from "me" to "we". The video can convey a return, in the present moment, to touch and connection after a long period of isolation and touch deprivation. The video can represent a dream men hold, to feel more connected, and to see that connection represented in the bodies, faces, and expressions of this diverse group of men. Featuring Arck Haven, Connor, Ed, Marck, Miko, Russell, Tiger Tantra. Original release date: February 1st, 2021.
A lot of us use porn as a way to not just get off, but to secretly satisfy our hidden desires and kinks. Because we don't accept these "filthy" aspects of who we are, we keep them hidden from the people around us -- even those to whom we're closest, such as lovers, long-term partners or friends. But does it need to be this way? Even if our partners or fuck buddies don't share our specific kinks, remember that hot sex need not mirror what we watch in porn. Instead, it can be fueled by it. Featuring Bishop Black, Brad Amberheart. Original release date: November 2nd, 2020.
Through our phones and devices, we are meeting men faster than ever. But with every incarnation of digital connection, we often rely less on serendipity and intuition to guide us into spontaneous connection. And yet it is spontaneous connection that results in our most thrilling, freeing erotic moments. Featuring Dalton Briggs, Hunter Graham. Original release date: December 16th, 2019.
